When wedding planning, your mother (and future mother-in-law) can be your greatest asset or you biggest headache.
I lucked out. Â I have two amazing, helpful mothers and many aunts who deserve the credit for planning my and S’s wedding.
The only credit I deserve is recognizing that I needed a lot of help, and taking them up on their offer. Â And selecting an amazing photographer.
When working with the moms on wedding plans, it’s important for you (the bride) to know what you want, and clearly articulate it to everyone – mothers, designers, DJs….anyone and everyone who has a hand in your wedding.  I knew that I wanted to have my mehendi’s ceremony decor in pale pink, a postcard Save-The-Date, the colors of the cricket shirts for Team P & Team N, favors…and I told everyone.  Even my darling fiancé, who responded with “whatever you want…by the way, I’m starving.”
Communication is key. Â Tell the moms, in explicit details, what you have in mind. Â Tell them what isn’t important for you to plan (in my case, the ceremony and the Janavasam). Â My future mother-in-law took care of the invitation text. Â Both moms are planning the wedding ceremony to incorporate Tamil and Telugu traditions. Â My mother found an excellent event coordinator. Â I’m collecting addresses for the guest list, selecting the decor of the events, and picking a DJ that will play a healthy mix of Bollywood, hip hop, and maybe some Bieber. Â (And picking my outfits, but that’s a given)
The dads and the fiancé?  Well, they’re in charge of the wine (my dad), the food (Moms and I are making sure S’s favorites are being served), and keeping the peace.
Oh, and signing the checks :)
